This influential and compassionate book explores ways of working with adult men and young men who are violent and abusive. It gives practical examples of how they can be invited to discover more sensitive, respectful and personally rewarding ways of relating to others.

Part 1: Explanations of violent and abusive behaviour

Introduction
Causal Explanations of Violence and Abuse
A Theory of Restraint

Part 2: The process of engagement of men who abuse their partners

Introduction
Invite the Man to Address his Violence
Invite the Man to Argue for a Non-violent Relationship
Invite the Man to Examine his Misguided Efforts to contribute to the Relationship
Invite the Man to Identify Time Trends in the Relationship
Invite the Man to Externalize Restraints
Deliver "Irresistible Invitations" to Challenge Restraints
Invite the Man to Consider his Readiness to Take New Action
Facilitate the Planning of New Action
Facilitate the Discovery of New Action
Couple Therapy
Separation Counselling

Part 3: The process of engagement of men who sexually abuse children

Introduction
Invite the Man to Attend to the Abuse
Invite the Man to Establish a Mission in Responsibility
Invite the Man to Consider his Readiness to Embark on a Mission to Responsibility
Implementing the Mission
1. Facing the Abuse
2. Contextualizing the Abuse
3. Demonstrating Responsibility
4. Preventing Relapse
Couple Therapy
Conclusion