Dr. Jill Murray is a psychotherapist with a private practice in Laguna Niguel, California. She speaks to thousands
of students and parents in high schools around the country each year on the topic of abusive teen relationships,
a focus she developed while serving as lead therapist at a domestic violence shelter for women and children. Her
appearances on Oprah, Leeza, and radio call-in shows have generated overwhelming response from concerned parents
nationwide. She lives in Laguna Niguel.
Summary
Is Your Daughter in Danger? One in three girls will be in a controlling, abusive dating relationship before
she graduates from high school -- from verbal or emotional abuse to sexual abuse or physical battering. Many young
women -- and their parents -- aren't even aware of the indications of a potentially abusive relationship. What's
most alarming is that these warning signs are also some of the behaviors that girls find most flattering: A boy
pages and calls a girl often -- but as a form of control, not affection. He wants to spend all his time with her,
but eventually he won't allow her to spend time with her friends. He says "I love you" very early in
the relationship.
These behaviors can escalate into blame, isolation, manipulation, threats, humiliation, and sexual and physical
abuse. In But I Love Him, Dr. Jill Murray identifies these and many other behaviors and helps you get your daughter
out of the relationship without alienating her. You will learn what draws her to this type of relationship, the
special barriers teens face when breaking off such a relationship, and what's going on in the mind of the teen
abuser. Dr. Murray helps you show your teen what a respectful relationship looks like -- and teach her the importance
of respecting herself.
