"I highly recommend it to therapists but also to researchers interested in the impact of concealing personal
feelings in relationships."
--Contemporary Psychology
"...a book of great originality and humanity. The format is lively and fascinating....This is one of life's
pleasures that is actually good for you."
--Paul Wachtel, author of Therapeutic Communication
"One of the most unique and creative books about couples I have ever read."
--Neil S. Jacobson, University of Washington
"For the seasoned therapist the book is an adventure into the mind of the therapist's journey, always interesting
and at time s even amusing. For the less experienced therapist, the book fully and clearly describes major relationship
dynamics as they are played out in the life of a couple, while presenting a very detailed therapeutic approach....the
book is an extremely useful aid for those doing couple therapy."
--Journal of Sex Education and Therapy
Guilford Publications Web Site, January, 2001
Summary
Daniel B. Wile, author of Couples Therapy and After the Honeymoon, devotes this entire book to an analysis of
a single night in the life of one couple. By tapping into their self-talk (their ongoing conversations with themselves),
he discovers what starts, escalates, and rekindles fights--and also, what potentially allows for a useful conversation
about a fight. Wile reveals the half-thoughts and half-feelings that generally go unnoticed: the anxious flashes;
depressive waves; self-directed diatribes; and two-second mental divorces.
